While chatting in a private group recently, a question was asked that I thought would be super helpful to share in a special edition of Dear Mistress. Is the question being asked to figure out if you are A submissive? Or are you asking if you tend to be submissive in the bedroom? To be a submissive in the BDSM lifestyle is something different. That is where you have a specific dynamic and power exchange. It does make sense [that you want to be cared for]. You want someone to be the caregiver and have your emotional well-being be their focus. If you are A submissiveyour role is illustrated with a lowercase s to signify your place. Being sexually submissive adjective.
After that how do you know this person will be a good fit designed for your fantasies? Asking sounds easy, right? Stranger from the Internet: Hey sexy, wow your boobs are big. I love my face sat on, accede to my mouth and nose be your seat. Stranger from the Internet: You will bow down to me after I come into your bedroom. A lot of BDSM-minded folks, much like in vanilla dating, have a checklist of things they want to experience. Lots of us have fetish lists or wishlists or what I call 'fucket lists'. Letting the list drive the interactions with new power exchange partners be able to be misleading and a turn bad. A more effective approach is asking the right questions and having a sense of the answers that would get you off the most.
I miss it. How do I achieve such a person? I can help! This is actually a complicated question… maybe even more complicated than you realize.